Neutral Beta

"If you can react the same way to winning and losing, that's a big accomplishment. That quality is important because it stays with you the rest of your life, and there's going to be a life after tennis that's a lot longer than your tennis life." Chris Evert

Nobody is ever a loser, because everyone wins somehow. It's the thought that counts.

When a task is assigned, the immediate reaction is to complete the task flawlessly in order to guarantee success. Why people want success? There are two major reasons. First, people like to win. Win gives hope and saves face. Second, people are afraid of losing. Losing brings feelings of disappointment and embarrassment.

If the project succeeds, it is then seen as success. However, it is only a success in the result, but not necessarily in the process. It can produce positive deliverables experience ultimately, but if during the process, it is filled up with negative people experience, it is an unhappy win. Just like war. No country can win a war without suffering no casualties. Every game won comes at a cost, either to the player or the opponent. How difficult it is to win without fighting?

If the project fails, it of course does not lead to success, because a failure is a failure. Nobody welcomes failure because it is like the angel of death. There is no use crying over split milk. But, with death comes new life. It is at least a lesson learned, and helps prevent a repeat of similar errors, which then improve the probability of success in the future. Although it is a negative deliverables experience, if the process is filled with positive people experience, everyone in the project still enjoys a happy loss.

If won, be happy. Even if lost, stay happy.

Stay neutral to winning and losing.