30 January 2007

Anonymous Beta

"I realized that remaining anonymous might not be quite as easy as I had thought."
Mary Cheney

In Hong Kong, if one wants to make an anonymous call, all the person has to do is just to add 133 in front of the call number.

Why anyone wants to make an anonymous call? What is wrong with the number shown on the phone? Why the person does not want the person to know who makes the call?

It is all about respect.

Hopeless Beta

"More than any time in history mankind faces a crossroads. One path leads to despair and utter hopelessness, the other to total extinction. Let us pray that we have the wisdom to choose correctly." Woody Allen

When people have lost hope, they have lost the motivation to keep doing anything for anyone. People do not lose hope for no reason. After all, everything has its own reason of existence. People may do stupid things at times, but they still do them for some stupid reasons. When people have reasons, they do not think they are stupid, even what they do are really stupid things.

When enough chances are given, but the person still does not cherish the opportunity being given, then there is simply no point to keep the touchpoint chain. People become hopeless, and give up everything without looking back.

When there is no love, there will be no faith. Faith is about integrity. Integrity means nothing when people have no credibility. Incredibility results when people have too much lies. Liars lie in hopes of hiding everything. They naively believe that they can cheat everyone for a single moment, and they also think that they can lie to one person forever, but they fail to realize that they cannot lie to everyone forever. Where there is no faith, hope is meaningless. When there is no hope, love dies.

29 January 2007

Space Beta

"Space is almost infinite. As a matter of fact, we think it is infinite." Dan Quayle

Space is a measure of comfort zone, and it is also a measure of selfishness.

People who always ask for a larger space are actually selfish. They only want a larger space for themselves to do whatever they want. When others want to get closer to them, they get offended, mostly for no reasons. When they get offended, they can do everything to deliver negative touchpoint experience, in order to protect their own comfort zone. They would simply ignore all previous positive touchpoint experiences.

Space!?

Shame on those who use space as an excuse to be selfish!

28 January 2007

Suicide Note Beta

"Suicide sometimes proceeds from cowardice, but not always; for cowardice sometimes prevents it; since as many live because they are afraid to die, as die because they are afraid to live." Charles Caleb Colton

Please take good care of yourself. I will not look after you anymore. I am always a burden to everyone, and I strongly believe that my departure is good for everyone concerned.

You really do not treat me right. You can always make up a lot of excuses to treat me bad. To you, treating me wrong is right, and treating me right is wrong. I never understand this logic. What have I done to deserve this unreasonable and unfair treatment?

I always give the best, don't I? But does that mean anything? I don't think so. Otherwise, you won't keep abusing me. You are always more than willing to upset me.

I always have to give way. Even I am right, but if you deem wrong, then I am not right, and I have to apologize. Sometimes apology means nothing. I have to do much more to have your forgiveness. You like to punish me in order to forgive me.

When you let go, you mean it. You just never look back. You never come back for me if I let go, but I am the only one who never let go.

To you, I am always nothing. You never appreciate what I have done, but only pinpoint at what I haven't yet done. For others, what they have done means everything.

Every person is better than me. If the one you like does the same as what I do, you see it as out of love. If I do the same thing, I'm either forcing you or simply wrong. Everything I do is wrong.

When you do me wrong, you never feel sorry and do anything to comfort me. Instead, you just shy away from me and disappear because you're afraid of my temper. Even when I have a better control on myself, you can always find your unreasonable reasons to ignore me intentionally.

I am really too tired to help you treat me right. If you really love me, you'll know how to love me. If you really love me, you won't even want to hurt me again, and again, and never ending.

Do I hate you? I do not know. I just do not want to see you again in my life. I'll forget you. Sooner or later, you are just nobody to me. The opposite of love is not hate, but indifferent.

Bye.

25 January 2007

Ignorance Beta

"It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers." James Thurber

Nobody likes to be ignored.

Everyone wants to know everything.

Negative touchpoint experience arises because of the need to know everything. Why everyone wants the truth? What are the costs and benefits of knowing the truth? Without knowing the truth, people will still get things done. Without knowing everything, life still goes on. Why everything? Why not nothing?

People who always want to know everything live a difficult life. They simply won't give up until they are satisfied. They try everything to know everything. Trying is a tiring process, and also requires a lot of efforts. Once efforts are spent, returns are expected. What are the expected returns? Everything! But how could everything be rewarded given that efforts spent are only efforts spent? To know everything is obviously impossible. The want to know everything will only drive people crazy.

Settle for less, for less is always more. More not in terms of the things perceived, but more in terms of peace of mind.

With peace, everything is filled with positive touchpoint experience.

Stay ignorant. Stay blissful.

15 January 2007

Ring Beta

"A diamond is forever." De Beers

If marriage is a commitment between two persons, why does it always have to involve almost everyone around? Why in particular almost every marriage has to have a wedding party? There are many ways to share happiness, but people usually pick the most expensive way.

Wedding party is not cost effective. Everyone invited has to contribute time and money. What is the return of participation? Happiness? Networking? Nay! Who needs a wedding party to find happiness and expand social network?

If unfortunately the marriage does not work out, which is very common nowadays, the wedding party would become a memory, if positively, but a joke, if negatively.

Nobody wants or dares to recall the scenes.

Wedding party won't bring happiness. It may only be an excuse for strangers to meet strangers, yet creating more opportunities for "easy come easy go" marriage.

Nobody can buy happiness. If it can be bought, it is not happiness. Happiness cannot be built on money. Money can buy sex but not love. Money can buy house but not home. Money can buy ability but not loyalty. It is more wrong to invite others to join the wedding party and expect them to contribute. It is just like cultivating happiness at the expense of others. Is this fair?

Marriage is about love. If it is true love, who cares if the ring is made of gold with diamond.

How deep is one's love is not judged by the size of diamond, but the willingness to give up oneself for the better half. The size of diamond is only used to show off!

Nobody has difficulties to stick together when everything goes well, but almost everyone lets go during adversity.

Diamond size is measured by its weight in carats. One carat equals 0.2 grams. But the willingness to sacrifice... is unquantifiable. It is all coming from the heart, but not from the head.

13 January 2007

Take-it-for-granted

"Why does a man take it for granted that a girl who flirts with him wants him to kiss her - when, nine times out of ten, she only wants him to want to kiss her?" Helen Rowland

People do not cherish and treasure things they take for granted. To them, nothing means anything.

But why? Why do some people have this take-it-for-granted attitude?

Positive touchpoint experience is about give-and-take. Nothing lasts when everything is only about give-or-take. It will only result in lose-lose outcome.

Givers give for one reason. They expect something in return. The return could either be tangible or intangible. If the return on investment (ROI) for the first touchpoint is zero, the chance for re-investment is limited. Although they may give again in hopes of positive ROI in the second touchpoint, unconditional giving is never a strategy adopted by rational givers.

Takers take for every reason. However, inferior takers take everything, as long as someone is willing to give. Superior takers
only take things of relevance and quality.

Take-it-for-granted happens when givers never give up. They just give no matter what. Even if they are being mistreated for a thousand times, they still do not let go. They hope one day things will change for the better. Fact is, the more they invest, the more they'll lose.

Everything has to have a bottom line.

Take the stock market as an example. Winners aren't those who buy low and sell high. That's really the most basic know-how. Winners are those who set the bottom line.

With bottom line, givers know when to cut loss. When givers stop unconditional giving, takers won't be able to abuse givers, which brings take-it-for-granted to an end.

Irrational givers, let go and stop unconditional giving.

Takers, count your blessings...

06 January 2007

World Beta

"To the world, you are somebody. To somebody, you are the world." Stephanie Au

How big is the world, when everyone now thinks that the world is flat, and the ocean is better blue than red?

Is it really possible to travel around the world in 80 days, suggested by Jules Verne back in 1872? If it is possible, it is definitely not an enjoyable tour. There are 193 countries in the world. 80 days? Is that a leisure or torture if each country is stayed for at most 0.5 days?

Is it a small world?

According to Disney, it's a small world after all.

It's a world of laughter, a world or tears
It's a world of hopes, it's a world of fear
There's so much that we share
That it's time we're aware
It's a small world after all

CHORUS:
It's a small world after all
It's a small world after all
It's a small world after all
It's a small, small world

There is just one moon and one golden sun
And a smile means friendship to everyone
Though the mountains divide
And the oceans are wide
It's a small small world